When we understand children through a developmental lens it helps us as parents to use approaches to parenting that accentuate that process while simultaneously cultivating a close and trust filled relationship with them!! The human brain develops in response to other human brains. The more warm and grounded we are as caregivers the more our children feel safe and calm and free to learn and explore the world around us. Conflict and emotion are not signs of insecurity in our relationship to them, insecurity is marked by the way we handle that conflict and emotion (avoidance, obsession and volatility in conflict are insecure patterns). Security is built when we actively repair our conflicts and model nature ways of owning our missteps making things right. Understanding is not just a passive act. When we offer our children (and ourselves) a chance to look at the why behind the what we are helping them to develop reflective function, a skill related to long term resilience. For a whole guide to building a secure relationship with your child my book “Raising Securely Attached Kids” is available for preorder now! Preorder link is in my profile and it would be such and honor and a help if you went right now and bought your copy (comes out Sept 3rd!) Love on. 🎁BONUS GIFTS at www.attachmentnerd.com/preorder for anyone who preorders!! 🎁 Link is in my profile! #parenting #securelyattached #raisingsecurelyattachedkids #parentingbooks #attachment