#wlw #lesbiansoftiktok #lesbian #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment we can do better as a community than supporting the dysfunctional attachments. avoid the pattern : 1. Initial attraction: The anxiously attached person is immediately drawn to the avoidant attached person's independence and self-sufficiency. 2. Early stages: The anxiously attached person showers the avoidant attached person with attention and affection, which makes the avoidant attached person feel uncomfortable and suffocated. 3. First conflicts: The anxiously attached person becomes clingy and demanding, while the avoidant attached person pulls away and becomes distant. 4. Anxious pursuit: The anxiously attached person becomes increasingly anxious and insecure, constantly seeking reassurance and intimacy from the avoidant attached person. 5. Avoidant withdrawal: The avoidant attached person becomes more distant and unavailable, causing the anxiously attached person to become even more anxious and clingy. 6. Power struggles: The anxiously attached person tries to control and manipulate the avoidant attached person into being more intimate, while the avoidant attached person resists and pulls away even further. 7. Emotional distance: The avoidant attached person establishes a safe emotional distance, while the anxiously attached person feels abandoned and rejected. 8. Cycle of pursuit and withdrawal: The relationship becomes a cycle of the anxiously attached person pursuing intimacy and the avoidant attached person withdrawing further. 9. Burnout: The anxiously attached person becomes exhausted from the constant pursuit and emotional turmoil, while the avoidant attached person feels suffocated and trapped. 10. Breakup: The relationship eventually ends due to the fundamental incompatibility of their attachment styles.