You may feel justified in your anger. But does that justify the way you’re treating people? You can have a valid concern and still have a harmful reaction. Being upset doesn’t give you permission to yell, insult, threaten, or punish someone. And while you’re focused on proving your point, the people around you may be focused on how to keep you from exploding. That’s the part we have to take seriously. Are they free to disagree with you? Can they bring you a concern? Or have they learned that being honest with you comes at a cost? Practice catching the first signs: the tight jaw, the rising voice, the urge to interrupt or get even. Pause. Ask yourself: “What actually happened, and what am I assuming it means?” If you need a break, communicate it and agree on when you’ll return. Then come back ready to address the issue—and take responsibility for any harm you caused. You don’t have to stop feeling angry to start behaving safely. Love, Hope with Holly 💜 #EmotionalMaturity #EmotionalRegulation #defensive #intensity #anger