0:34 Why they externalize 1:00 Externalization turns into devaluation 1:30 How it sets up the discard Something that happens outside of your relationship can be the reason they suddenly have a problem with you. Knowing this helped me take it less personally and recover my own self esteem. #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #emotionalabuse #traumahealing #narcissisticrelationship